Venus and Mars

In my latest session with Susan, she wanted to know all about my reaction to Sammy when we were on our little adventure in the Shenandoah Park.  How did you respond to him  Was he intellectually stimulating?  How were his interpersonal skills?  Was he physically attractive to you?  Did he have more of a sense of humor this time?  Did he talk about personal things?

Yes, to the physically attractive and intellectually stimulating questions and I definitely saw more of a sense of humor.  We were together just over three hours and had no problems carrying on a conversation.  That's all good.

"Is there a BUT?"  she wants to know.

"Okay, yes, there is.  I don't think he revealed much about himself personally.  I know he had two marriages, one for 29 years, the other for 10. And, that the second one ended just last year.  Although I didn't ask what happened in either of those relationship, I thought he might expound on that more.  The only remark he made was 'They're not as dramatic as your story.'  Well, my story is the pinnacle of drama, but I expected him to be a little more open."

"Well, he's been in a relationship just about his whole adult life and you're the opposite, so maybe you could learn from each other.  He sounds like he really loves being in a relationship."

"Yeah, but he's only been unattached a year."

"It's good he's venturing out.  A year's not that bad.  It's not like he just ended it two months ago."

"I sensed some physical awkwardness.  There was no physical contact, not even a touch on the elbow.  When I hugged him goodbye, he was a little stiff (not what you think), but he smiled."

"I think he likes you because you're at ease with yourself and you're gregarious.  but, you haven't heard from him since he went back to Florida?"

"No, although he made it clear we would be seeing each other when he returned."

"Well, Dr. Diana says women are allowed one proactive move with men who don't seem to be comfortable with knowing how to proceed.  Just saying hi because he's a bit socially reticent would not be wrong and would give him an opportunity to communicate with you.  You could send something light."

I didn't tell her this but there is no way in hell I'm sending him an email.  Just like there's no way in hell I'm dying my hair.  (I mulled that for about 10 seconds.)

I didn't have to wait long.  The email appeared the next day....very long with an explanation that he'd been working on a short sale contract.  Evidently, he had put a bid in on a house north of Baltimore and it was going through and closing when he returns in a couple of weeks.  And, he also made sure I knew how many minutes it was from Columbia.

Immediately, these Simon & Garfunkel lyrics come to mind....
Slow down, you move too fast
You got to make the morning last
Just kicking down the cobble stones
Looking for fun and feeling groovy


See, I like the looking for fun and feeling groovy part.

And, he added that he thought he spent a lot of time discussing his PERSONAL LIFE with me and wanted me to know more about his professional side and sent me to the link for his curriculum vitae and research.

Granted he did talk about his two daughters....but his PERSONAL LIFE?  Is this just classic Venus and Mars stuff or what?

Okay, I'll check it out and get back to you!