His 6 Secret Sex Spots!!????

In light of all the recent cheating scandals involving men...need I remind you?  Ahhnold the Governator...Weiner...there seems to be a proliferation of articles and columns talking about female infidelity.  It's on the rise, evidently.

I guess women are more clever or don't have the need to get caught flashing their genitals across the world or maybe they're more subtle.  Maybe they just have more to lose...who knows?  But, it's rare that we're reading about them, except maybe in the National Enquirer.  Ohhhh, that's right, Oprah and Gayle.  That's how men denigrate women's friendships.  They couldn't possible be having that much fun or be that close without being sexual.

But, I'm not a male basher.  I love men.  Some of my best friends are male...heard that line before?  I just never went through the male-hating stage.  Yeah, I'm a feminist, belonged to the National Organization of Women, rode the Freedom Train to Springfield, Illinois to fight for the Equal Rights Amendment, but that train ride turned me totally against the man-haters.  Instead of applauding the smattering of men who rode with us to support the cause, they were ridiculed and baited.  Awful.  Not good manners, ladies!!

Some of these recent columns on women cheating say it's a form of empowerment.  It gives them power in their relationships.  Really?  Sure, for years it was true that men often had the upper hand or more power in a relationship.  But, what did we ever have a women's movement for?  To be able to cheat like men?  To me, empowerment has less to do with sex and much more to do with being true to ourselves.

I abhor Cosmo.  The whole premise of this magazine is to sexually please the man.  You would think this is a woman's entire purpose in life.  I couldn't even get this month's edition in the local library, it was so over the top.  This month's cover stories?  "His 6 Secret Sex Spots:  Master Your Guy's Biggest Below the Belt Pleasure Triggers" and "Talking Tricks that Draw Him In" and "What Men Crave in July"...I kid you not!!!

I just don't get it.  I know I'm in a minority.  I always had the power.  I had the power to stay, the power to leave, the power to love someone else should I choose.

I have the power to choose a healthy relationship with balance.  I don't always want to be on top and I don't relish the bottom.  I want a man who's not threatened by my openness.

I do agree with the premise that women cheat not because they're looking for the greatest sex, but because they're looking for someone they are emotionally connected to...someone who understands them better than their current partner.  Completely different for a man.  You know what they're looking for...more sex, more variety, more thrills.  Generally, not true for a woman.

It's the whole Venus-Mars gap...relationship vs. physical want.  Of course, this does not apply to all men.  I have had great love relationships that were mutually satisfying.  And, I've been fortunate enough to have seen amazing marriages.  It's just the numbers...more men cheat.  No judgment here...just the facts.

And I will also admit that I've been the Mars partner.  I was reckless.  As I was ever the rebel plowing through all the taboos to find my truer self.  Confronting fear and mowing it down.

Empowerment?  I don't think there's room for power games in a soul connection.  To cheat just because you can?  Doesn't help me get to my higher self.