Dating Program of Three

I think I alluded to this program in an earlier blog; it's part of the Love in 90 Days guide.  The point is women meet someone, and very soon start believing this is "The One."  They immediately get overinvolved and start obsessing about the new love.  The act like crack addicts, losing touch with reality and risk an agonizing withdrawal when the rejection comes.

I definitely have been the crack addict.  Been there, done that.  Way too much self-negative talk...too old, too many women and too few men, have to make this one work...you get the picture.  But, I have given up giving myself negative messages.  Susan has helped to imbue me with confidence and I'm not at all worried about finding Mr. Right.  Who knew???

On the Dating Program of Three, you are seeing three men simultaneously.  Keeping the date fairly short, letting the guys know you're seeing other people, staying grounded...definitely not getting overinvolved aka no sex.  It's all about moderation and balance.  You're rank ordering them and dropping and adding as your feelings change.  And, you do this for a least three months (hence, 90 days) before you have The Talk to be exclusive.

When I first read that, I thought....three??  Are you kidding me?  I have enough trouble with one and where are they coming from?  Don't do the bar scene.  Bridge clubs?  Lots of nice guys but no one has really interested me there.  Friends?  Not one of you has introduced me to anyone...lol.  Online?  Yep.  That's where you're going to meet the men.  But, you gotta go through a ton of toads!!

That said, my dating card is full.  There's Miami Sammy, coming back to town in two weeks to buy his house here.  Being a boring, easy prof wasn't a deal breaker for me....I just think he's more cut out for the research end of academia.  Harley Guy's is wanting to get together again.

There's the Big Kahuna.  And, he is local...finally.  I wrote about him last week.  We've had trouble connecting because I'm never around.  Do you think his screen name says anything about his ego??  Huge turnoff, but I'm open.  I like his politics although he's not as flaming L as I am, but he doesn't have to be.  What hooked me was his sense of humor...he's the one who's going on Prozac if he doesn't meet his match soon.  Then, he calls himself a gourmet cook....that couldn't be a bad thing.  Phone conversations are light as we move toward our first meeting this weekend.

Oh, and I'm adding one more guy to the Program of Three....John.  Crumbs?  Remember him?  Life is definitely not boring.