It’s over for me, but he has no idea. The emails keep coming...what time are we getting together Thursday night for dinner and our regular bridge game? Do you want to walk before we eat? Should I bring dinner?
I ignore every one. I have a session with Susan. I just wanted to keep ignoring him. She insists I must communicate with him, tell him it’s over. Be calm, no drama. I assure her I will.
I make plans to be somewhere else and email him to bring my things from his house and I will leave his few items in the garage. He thanks me for my clarity since he had no idea why I suddenly stopped communicating with him.
No idea. I warned him in late July when we started ‘living together’ I was not willing to be part of a harem....monogamy or nothing....no friends, no bridge partner, no contact. But, slowly but surely he weaseled the women in. I was pissed.
Kentucky woman landed late Friday afternoon. I sent a text at midnight: “How does it feel to screw someone you've completely duped? (P.S. I did not use the word ‘screw’.)
At 8:30 a.m., I sent this: “OMG...what am I thinking??!! That’s what you’ve been doing to me for years...fits your definition of an ‘honest’ relationship.”
At this point, I was in North Carolina for my brother’s 60th birthday party and John was living it up at his son’s wedding. I have the password for the email address he used to chat up his lady friends or find them on OKCupid and all the other sites he frequented. So, I started my research.
I read dozens of emails over the course of the year to and from women he’s been involved with, I got the email addresses of the women he was currently seeing or attempting to see. I decide to do the altruistic thing and write them.
I have been in what I considered to be a serious relationship with John for the past five years. It ended last week. It took me this long to figure out exactly what and who he really is. I’m hoping to save you time and heartache.
He is a practitioner of polyamory...has a need to be involved with multiple women at the same time. He is a commitment phobe and is completely clueless about what honesty truly means. His philosophy is to tell women what is going on in his life on a need to know basis...Trust me, he will never tell you the whole truth.
Do not think about having unprotected sex with him...here’s a partial list of women he’s been involved with or is trying to get involved with...(I INSERTED 12 NAMES HERE)...the list is growing.
Consider yourselves forewarned...I wish I had been so fortunate.
Over the top? Maybe. Maybe not. I think he earned it. I'm in control now.
How did the women take it? Two thought it was fine for him to be with multiple women....I was the nut case. They just wanted me out of the picture...(No problem there, ladies....you can have him and all the competition). They sounded pretty desperate to me and, God knows, I should recognize that!
The ones who were horrified by him wanted to date ME! But, that's what you get on OKCupid.
Ain’t life grand???!!
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