Susan

Synchronicity.  I'm a big believer in this.  If you look, you can find it all around you.  No accidents.

And, so it is with the fact that the women who are coaching, probing every detail of my life, and cheering me on are named Susan.

Did you ever read Robert Parker?  The Spencer series?  Well, Spencer is this tough he-man private investigator who is head over heels in love with Susan, a very independent psychiatrist with a thriving practice.  They are totally committed to each other yet are not married or even living together.  They maintain their separate lives but, obviously, have a profound connection to each other.  I like this Susan.
I like this relationship.

In my 40 minute free session with Susan, the real psychotherapist, she gets right to the heart of my man choices.  "I think you choose men who are too soft for you."  Really?!  Maybe, she has a point...they do tend to be on the passive, reserved side.  She encourages me to choose against type.

Somehow, I don't see me riding on the back of a Harley, but, then again, I've never tried it.

"You need someone who has moved further along than this last gentleman in terms of finding himself," she state unequivocally.
"I'll jump on that!" I reply.

She goes on to say that assertiveness is more natural to me and developing my softer side has been a more recent process and maybe I'm ready to be with someone who is more in that assertiveness, achievement role, as well.

"Shall we continue the sessions?"
"You betcha!"  (Thanks, Sarah)

There are multiple, expensive options.  I choose the one with the most sessions over a six month period and pay up front.  I am on my way!

I have homework.

I must read Love in 90 Days and do the exercises in Chapter 1.  This include examining how I spend my time which is designed to confront you with all your time wasters...easy...too hooked to my iPhone, play too much Mahjong and Bridge online.  And, that's just for starters.  The program has a minimal expectation of 10-13 hours a week of "work."

Just perusing eHarmony takes that much time.

Oh, and by the way, I have a date with a guy on his Harley the day I get back from my vacation to Florida!